Only 20. That’s how many people were at the wedding of my son and his fiancé . No crying infants, lewd uncles, prudish aunts, shopping cougars or drooling teenagers. With so few people there was no bridezilla, defeated groom, or pushy parents to fret or fight or over the details. As parents of the groom we didn’t have to do anything but put on our daytime dress apparel and show up. Same with the bride’s parents. We could relax, get to know our son’s new in-laws and not worry if they contributed more to the wedding than we did.
The cool thing was that instead of renting a hall they had the ceremony right in a friend’s 2nd floor apartment in San Francisco overlooking the city. This glassed-in living room offered views of the Golden Gate and the Presidio. Twenty white clothed folding chairs were set in rows and a cloth like paper runner was laid as the walkway for the bride and her dad. As untraditional as the wedding seemed, our daughter-in-law-to-be appeared in a simple but elegant wedding gown and the ceremony began. The bride joined our son under a lovely lacy chuppa for their vows. The ceremony overseen by a secular officiate shared poetry and writings the couple selected. After they each took the time to tell us of their love, the rings and a tender kiss were exchanged. Petals were tossed and the couple made their way down the aisle to the open kitchen area where we all shared in a toast and Champagne.
From there we made our way two blocks up to the couple’s favorite restaurant that opened early for our party. Although not a big space they managed music and a bit of dancing in addition to a delicious meal. All was complete by 5 pm and invitees made their way back to city apartments and hotels.
For those who like to enjoy celebrating until wee hours of the morning, there was an after party for many of the couple’s friends. Most did not attend the ceremony but had the fun of celebrating starting at 11 pm on the rooftop of the wedding location. I will admit that by then my husband and I were fast asleep in our comfy hotel. It had been a wonderful day at the perfect wedding.